Special club
Two good friends (moms of two of Avery’s playmates) are due next month with their second child; one of them told me yesterday that she’s starting to feel really sad/guilty about her first and the fact that this little girl soon won’t be the (only) most important thing in her parents’ life. I totally get it, I told her: I experienced these feelings myself, and I remember doing lots of mommy-and-me activities with Zoe right before Avery’s arrival, in an effort to soak up the last of our “alone” time together.
It’s true, I told my friend, that her daughter’s life is about to drastically change – just as Zoe’s did – but it will actually be for the better. My girls get so much joy from one another that I can’t imagine them not having one another, and I have long ago let go of the sad/guilt feelings I had about Zoe. (And I’ve even stopped feeling so sad about Avery being the on-the-sidelines kid; she gets more than enough good stuff from her sister to make up for it!)
Going from a family of three to four is one of the best things that has ever happened to me – despite the work and the (more-than-ocassional) stress. I can’t wait for more of my girlfriends to join this club.
-M